Mother's day...Celebrate.

Over the past couple of weeks, I’ve been doing a bit of (I don’t want to think of it as soul searching, but I’m kind of psyching myself out over turning thirty-five, the confusion regarding the dichotomy of  feelings over the killing of Osama Bin Laden, and trying to figure how to keep all the balls in the air) thinking.  It was a couple of days ago on Facebook (I know, the root of all family and friend interaction), I made this off hand comment (Can you make off hand comments on Facebook) about having a mean streak and then being asked “Aren’t liberals nice”?

Hmmm….are liberals nice?  Oh, I can say with utmost certainty that no, not all liberals are nice.  In the same breath, I can say with utmost certainty that no, not all conservatives are mean.  I’ve met some pretty nice or mean liberals and conservatives…. And, when I thought about it – I think I’ve known far more mean liberals than I’ve met mean conservatives.  And, of the super mean conservatives I’ve met in my life, it usually because we’ve been talking about biblical theories.  And, if there’s one thing I would pay money to see the Super Liberal and Conservative pastors duke it out over their interpretation of passages.  OMG – it would be a total HBO afterschool special.

The whole Liberal/Conservative thing won’t go away. It is a bitter generalization that can’t go away…really – it can’t. If it did the world would cease to spin, as we would all stop moving and wondering what to do next.

So on that note, enter in my bitterness about celebrating women, or specifically Mothers for that one day of the year. I know I know, you celebrate your mothers every day of the year….great. Hit that button on the top of the page that says “Next Blog>>” and check out the Bike Show or something.


Then, let us discuss the disparities between men and women.  The one that is really my hot button – is my desire to have my tubes tied and not being able to find a doctor who will do it.  I’ve searched, and if you are reading this and you’ve got a doctor who will do it…I’m game…leave a comment.  The Brideau household is done having children.  We have Iolani, she’s perfect…oh hell…when you think “the full force of God” that is Iolani….she came swooping into this world with the fully force of God behind her.  There’s no doubt in my mind.  Alex was right…We didn’t have Iolani, She had us.

Asking to get your tubes tied should be “Plastic Surgery” easy.  My example is as simple as this…when you ask to get a nose job, a nip, a tuck…you fill out a couple of forms that essentially say “You know what you are about to subject your body to, the Doctor might fuck it up, but you will not sue said Doctor if you don’t come out looking pretty”.  Why can’t I simply sign a form that says “You know that you are about to make it almost impossible to have additional children, and you won’t blame the Doctor for the days that you go baby crazy.” Done!  I’d sign in.  Gimme a form, make the appointment, and away we go.  Nope.  Total bonus – there’s a couple in Canada (you know, like, where they have a nationalized health care system, so you think they’d do anything) who were refused the ligation.  Sure, he can get a vasectomy with no problem. But, you know…men and their penises…they tend get their own rules.

Exxxxxxxxxample, The NBC LA reported that charges won’t be filed in an “alleged” sexual assault case.  “The woman -- who said she was forcibly carried into a car and raped by two men about 3 a.m. Sunday --"admitted to being extremely intoxicated" and never told the security guard or the other man that she talked with that she had been assaulted, according to the document.”

For those of you who read in horror the first 24 words of the sentence, with the imagery of a woman getting scooped up at the Arclight Theater, dragged off to a car….  Were you thinking “Why didn’t anyone stop this????” until you got to the word INTOXICATED?  Because apparently, that’s what everyone else at the Prosecutors office was thinking.  And, on top of all that...it’s likely happened millions of timesand there’s no problem with it? Happy Mother’s Day - Chris Anthony Cardoza.  Did you tell your mother what you did last weekend? 

I have figured out a way to enjoy Mother’s Day over the years.  I think celebrating Mother’s Day while my own mother was killed nearly 17 years ago, I go back and forth on how to mark this day.  I freely admit that once Iolani arrived on the scene, I’m able to approach Mother’s Day with a much more positive attitude.

Chalk it up to liberal guilt, but Ladies…enjoy the day.  It might be the only day you can enjoy safely…

I don’t want you to think that I’m angry like this all the time.  But, there are moments in the day that I wonder about the injustices and isn’t that why I have Ginny Here & There in the first place?    Sigh.  Done.

3 comments:

MattLaw said...

this is a belated Happy (being a) mother day to you Ginny.

As for the rant on gender bias. You are right on the money there.

matt law

btw wouldn't facebook be easier?

Ginny-Marie said...

Hi Matt!
I don't know why, but I think Facebook is just a little too public for me.

MattLaw said...

yeah it is as public as you let the information be. So far this is only one picture of me on the internet !! the rest of my images look like demented sesame stree characters.